Run and Hide?
How do you know when you’re running away from a problem instead of solving it? When is a fresh start really the right answer?
My mother is considering selling her townhouse and moving out-of-state. She wants to get a better grip on her finances, which I admire, but she simultaneously wants to avoid a family situation that is upsetting her.
I understand the powerful draw of ‘starting over’ in a new place, meeting all new people, trying to build new routines for your day. But, I also know that you’re stuck with who you are at the fundamental levels. You might be farther away from certain toxic people, but you can’t simply move away from your memories and personality. You’re still you, just in a different place.
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This kind of stuff is tough. Everyone deals with situations differently, and while some might see this as her running away, it may be her only way to deal with it. Sometimes I don’t think it’s a matter or whats right or wrong…but a matter of what one individual knows they can handle.
I totally agree Christina. However, given the particulars of the situation, she may actually cause herself more worry if she moved, at least in the short term. It’s hard to say how the long term picture would turn out. It would depend on the number of grudges that form throughout the family.
This is Brianne’s mom, I don’t know if I will move, it is a thought. Yes it may seem like I am running away, I moved once and yes that time I was running away. Wanted to be far from my exhusband to try and find out who I was. My children asked me to move back closer so I did. This time it is a matter of finances, pure and simple. I know there is a family situation that Brianne can’t go into on here so only she knows what I told her. But I have overreacted to that situation and looking back at it there isn’t anything thing I can do about, just hope for the best. Will I move, probably not, but I have to look at all my options.