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Weird Week

I so wish I was able to tell you about the weird things that happened to me this week, but there are some things that are not yet ready for prime time. My dear husband has been getting an earful of my stressed out ramblings, bless his heart. I’ll just say that the planet seems to like me, and for that I am eternally thankful. My life is so blessed, and I hope the people around me know how indebted I am to them, even when I’m bad at showing my gratitude.

I think I’m in for a bumpy ride over the next six months or so, but I’ll make it, and hopefully come out ahead.

Etiquette & Social Grace

I don’t really understand either one.

I’m a friend’s +1 for a wedding taking place this evening. I’m in a dress, which is weird for me.

I mentioned to a coworker that I’m not planning to buy a gift since I have never met the bride or groom and she looked at me like I am crazy. The ‘rules of society’ are so illogical to me. Is the gift the return payment for eating dinner at the reception or something..? If that’s the case, I’d much rather bring my own food than buy a gift. They’d save the cost of the meal and wouldn’t have to send a ‘thank you’ card to someone they don’t know for a gift they didn’t ask for. Everybody’s happier that way.

Second-Hand

I believe in second-hand goods. There is a certain magic in owning something that has had a useful life before becoming mine. There’s a moment when I see something useful and beautiful on a thrift store shelf. I can picture exactly how it will fit into my life and I know it will be coming home with me on a new adventure. Also, because those paintings, and pants, and plates have already served their purpose once with someone else, they do more than just entice me with their history, they help me keep a few extra nickels in my purse.

My love for second-hand treasures started at an early age going garage sale shopping with my mother and brothers. The sales I found most exciting back then were the ones that had infant clothing. Cabbage Patch Kid dolls were very popular, and newborn sized clothing fit them perfectly. A few quarters could buy my baby a whole new wardrobe, so while my mom was looking for shirts for my brothers, I waded through onesies hoping to find tiny dresses that would look nice with my doll’s brown yarn hair and bright blue eyes.

Lately, I’ve been on a quest to purchase vintage dinnerware. I’ve found three bowls and two plates, each with their own design and character. My favorite is a large stoneware platter with scalloped edges and a hand-painted floral design in the middle. I like to imagine that the plate has enjoyed the experience of a church pot-luck dinner, where it was topped with wobbly green jello slowly melting onto the crispy crust of the neighboring fried chicken.

One of my favorite things about old items is this nostalgia value they seem to adopt during their first life. A simple throw pillow can bring me back to my grandma’s living room, sitting on the couch and eating a bowl of red raspberries with milk and sugar, or listening to my grandma, dad, and uncles playing doubles cribbage. A polyester shirt can transport me to my 21yr old self, living on my own for the first time, trying to make friends in a new city, and meeting the man I eventually married. That platter I recently found? It reminds me of Thanksgiving dinners surrounded by family, and finally moving from the kid’s table to the adult table.

I find that shopping second-hand also makes me think “Do I need this?” more than shopping at regular retail stores, despite the low ticket prices. Knowing some of these paintings, and pants, and plates have been on this earth longer than I have helps me appreciate the wares that accompany me home. Buying something new is fun, but it can’t compete with buying second-hand.

(This is an edited version of my Personal Essay from this summer’s English class)

Censored

Sometimes I really (really really) want to write things, but I don’t know if the words will hurt or embarrass someone I like. So, in lieu of reasonably interesting blogging, here is a photo.

Real Life and Blogging

I love it when I find and can read blogs by people I know in real life! It’s one of the benefits of having a public blog, and not hiding behind an alias. I can comment on their blogs, and maybe even talk to them about blogging in real life!

Two people I know have started blogs this year. One is a girl I work with, who I don’t know very well yet. What can I say, I’m kind of shy. Anyway, she’s a very talented artist and I’ve had fun learning little bits about her when we’ve had lunch breaks together. She’s really quite rad. *grin* Go take a peek: bare bones, twigs & stones

The second person is a girl I went to grade school and junior high with. We were never very good friends, but it is still pretty fun to read her blog because her life has taken such an interesting path. After high school she started modeling, and she got quite a lot of work. I remember seeing her in Gap ads when I was in college, and she was on a half dozen Italian magazine covers over the years. She has also been in a couple of movies, like The Devil Wears Prada. Despite all that, I still mainly think of her as one of the cheerleaders from my junior high squad, since that’s when I knew her best. Have a look-see:supermodelblogger